Responsibility is a term we use in psychology that can create confusion in domestic abuse victim advocacy. For example, who is responsible for the pain of verbal abuse in marriage? Is it the abuser or is it the domestic abuse survivor? We are indoctrinated into believing that the perpetrator is always responsible for his/her battering […]

“What if the abuser never ever apologizes, does not believe in remorse and has no empathy? What then…how do we heal?” asks a reader. Good question for those seeking to heal from intimate partner violence. Implied in this question appears to be a belief that I would question. Is it true that you need your […]

Parental alienation is hard to understand mostly because it’s hard to wrap your brain around how one parent would do this to your child and to you. It seems unconscionable that someone would position your own flesh and blood to perceive you as his or her enemy. And moreover, it is utterly cruel to inspire […]

“When you pressure me, you lose me. And instead you get yourself and the illusion that you won me over.” Looks like a familiar abusive relationship sign, correct? People in abusive relationships spend an inordinate amount of time in a tug-of-war dance. He is insisting on her seeing, doing or being life as he wants, […]

People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. If you request and insist on your boundaries being honored, they will be. On the other hand, if you allow others to determine whether to respect your limits or not, then expect your boundaries to be treated as they wish to do so. This […]

Many people think that domestic violence is easier to deal with when you are wealthy. But, the fact is that the affluent have a whole Kamagra jelly set of issues unique to their elevated socioeconomic status that makes dealing with domestic abuse even more difficult. How is it for the rich battered woman? 1) Disbelief […]