Falling in love is a wonderful thing – the stuff that dreams are made of. However, if you are married and the object of your love is not your husband, you are probably not floating on Cloud 9 right about now. In fact, falling in love with someone other than your spouse can be one of the most awkward, painful and frustrating experience one can have.

Being in love with another man while being married is probably a situation you never even dreamed you would get yourself into one day. And yet, here you are. Whether you have actually had a physical relationship with this other man or are just thinking about it, the big question you face right now is: what are you going to do next?

Caring about two people at once is a bit like skiing when your skis are pointed in different directions. At some point, you have got to make a decision about where you will go with this situation.

You may be asking yourself, “Should I tell my husband I’m in love with another man?” Here are the 3 main options you have for moving forward:

1. Tell your husband about your feelings and ask for a divorce:

You need to start by asking yourself whether you still love your husband. Love for your husband is the only thing that can help you get through this time. If you are sure that don’t love him anymore and want a divorce, then your next steps are pretty clear: you need to start laying the groundwork for telling your husband that you want a divorce. This is a hard, cold fact, but the sooner you face it, the better off everyone in the situation will be.

2. Tell your husband but immediately break things off with the other man:

On the other hand, if you still love your husband, you have a more complicated road ahead of you. No matter what, your road will be filled with tears for at least one or two of the persons involved in your love triangle. Option 2 for you is to be totally honest with your husband about your feelings for the other person, tell him that you have been having an “emotional affair” (or physical relationship) but that you plan to immediately break things off with the other person.

3. Break up with the other man but do not tell your husband:

Your third option, is a bit less honest vis-a-vis your husband but may just save your marriage. This would be to simply break things off with the other man (or don’t pursue the relationship further, if nothing’s really started yet) without telling your husband anything. If you can pull this off, you are going to make the least amount of waves in your relationship. You may cry yourself to sleep for a few weeks, but you will have saved your marriage.

You are not in an enviable situation, but the one thing that is clear is that you need to resolve this one way or another. Consider these 3 options for what to do when you are in love with another man.

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