A member of Inner Bonding Village asked the following question: “I’m a little confused. My mother is visiting me, and sometimes we have a nice time together. But often her way of bonding with me or anyone else is to talk about other people’s problems. Most of the time I find it draining. It feels […]

“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.” — Kahlil Gibran Symptoms of enmeshed parenting: * Your children’s good or difficult behavior and successful or unsuccessful […]

“There’s too much to do. You’ll never get it all done.” My wounded self was harping on me about not having enough time. It’s true that my life is very busy. But every time my wounded self told me that there is too much to do and that I will never get it all done, […]

Rianna and Joel consulted with me because they kept getting stuck in their relationship whenever there was a conflict. It wasn’t the issue itself that kept creating a problem, but how they were dealing with the issue. Married for 7 years with three children, they loved each other deeply, and were both distressed when they […]

“It’s really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you […]

Most of us know that expressing heartfelt gratitude is a powerful way to raise our frequency and connect with our spiritual Guidance. Yet many people rarely or never express gratitude, and when they do, it is more rote than truly heartfelt. In a phone session with Deb, one of my clients, we were talking about […]

“You may have a fresh start at any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.”–Mary Pickford, 1893-1979, Actress and producer There are two kinds of people: those who focus on avoiding failure, and those who focus on learning and growth. Dr. Carol Dweck, […]

Is it loving or unloving to be controlling? It all depends on your intent, on which part of you is trying to control, and what you are trying to control. WHEN CONTROLLING IS UNLOVING When you are coming from an ego wounded part of yourself and your intent is to control others to get them […]

“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart don’t know how to laugh either.” – Golda Meir Do you have a lid on your tears? Do you also have a hard time laughing with your whole body? Our tears are a God-given way of expressing sadness, just as laughter is a […]

Are you ready to be your own person? Are you ready to move beyond neediness and into emotional freedom? Are you ready to stop needing others to make you feel that you are okay? Are you ready to learn to fill yourself with love and define your own worth? I hope so! Being emotionally dependent […]