I, like many of you, was brought up and programmed to believe in a number of ideas that have turned out to be untrue. These false beliefs led me to make various life and relationship mistakes. I didn\’t like making mistakes any more than you do, but it is from my mistakes that I\’ve learned […]

Many of us have heard of the Law of Attraction – that like attracts like. However, many are confused about what this really means. In my experience, like attracts like means that like frequency attracts like frequency. My high frequency attracts the things I want and my low frequency attracts the things I don\’t want. […]

\”Perception is a mirror not a fact. And what I look on is my state of mind, reflected outward.\” – – A Course in Miracles I remember many years ago seeing the movie \”Rashomon\” (starring Toshiro Mifune and directed my Akira Kurosawa) where three people saw a murder committed and each saw it completely differently. […]

Do you believe that being \”perfect\” gives you control over how people feel about you?\” If you do, then you are coming from 3 big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness. FALSE BELIEF #1 \”I can have control over how people feel about me.\” Think for a moment whether or not others have […]

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all […]

Marcus grew up the eldest of three, with a highly critical mother and an absent father. Marcus’s mother frequently told him or implied that he was too stupid to take care of himself – that he would be nothing without her. She programmed him to believe that she was his only source of love and […]

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt Why should most people be thinking about you? They are far more concerned with what you are thinking about them to spend time thinking about you! Right now, take a moment to ponder the question: […]

“Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair but manifestations of strength and resolution.” ~Kahlil Gibran Over the 42 years that I have been counseling individuals and couples, I have heard countless times: “If I cry in movies people will think I’m weak.” “If I’m kind, people will take advantage of me.” “If […]

“Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” –Stephen R. Covey,? Author and Speaker This is a powerful freedom. And, from my point of view, another way of putting this is that the ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide our own […]

“I have a question about envy. I’m not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else’s good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn’t but only […]