\”He can who thinks he can, and he can\’t who thinks he can\’t. This is an indisputable law.\” – Henry Ford Have you ever noticed how often you say, \”I can\’t\”? \”I can\’t lose weight.\” \”I can\’t find my soul mate.\” \”I can\’t find a job I love.\” \”I can\’t take care of myself.\” \”I […]

I have learned over my 43 years of counseling that no one heals without a personal connection to a spiritual source of Guidance. William was struggling with issues of shame and depression. He had struggled with feelings of insecurity and jealousy most of his life, despite years of inner work. While he intellectually knew that […]

Marty tells me in a phone session, \”Susan is always criticizing me. How do I get her to stop?\” Fiona tells me in a phone session, \”Jeff is often withdrawn. I feel so angry about this.\” It\’s always easy to see what your partner is doing that you don\’t like, but it\’s generally very challenging […]

When I married my ex-husband in 1963, I was determined to create a stable, loving relationship. I wanted an intact family where we could raise our children and share the joys of our grandchildren. We did raise our children together, but ended the marriage after 30 years. We do get to share the joys of […]

Have you ever said to yourself, \”The reason God doesn\’t love me is I don\’t deserve to be loved?\” Have you ever looked inside to discover why you might not be loving to yourself and answered with, \”I\’m not worthy of love\”? I hear this all the time from my clients. It is often one […]

\”What\’s the matter with you?\” \”How could you do that?\” \”Explain yourself, young lady/young man.\” \”Why are you dressed like that?\” \”Why are you late again?\” \”What did you do to your hair!\” How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time. And what […]

\”Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are. If you\’re friendly, then everybody else seems to be friendly too.\” –Dr. David Hawkins, Physician and Lecturer Have you ever noticed how true this is? I would change it a bit and say that we attract to ourselves what we […]

On April 1, 2011, Matt Cantor, Newser Staff, posted \”As Americans Get More Self-Centered, So Do Lyrics Study finds increasingly narcissistic words in top 10 hits.\” Today\’s hit songs aren\’t about \”us\”-they\’re just about \”me,\” a study finds. Researchers examined Billboard\’s top 10 songs in the US each year from 1980 to 2007, and found […]

Have you ever noticed how bad you feel when you try to control things you can\’t control – such as others and outcomes? Larry consulted with me because he was often miserable – despite running a successful business, and having a lovely wife and two daughters, whom he adored. It soon became apparent that Larry […]

Kari and Rudy consulted with me because they kept having conflicts over the same issues over and over – primarily money, chores, and child-rearing. They were nearing the decision to separate, believing that they were incompatible. I asked them to pick one of the issues and they picked a recent conflict regarding setting limits for […]