Once you know a few simple principles, you can increase your level of attractiveness to women right away. Experience shows that women are much more drawn to men who have clear goals and a strong direction to their life, who have high levels of confidence, and who share uplifting attitude and positive energy with people around them.

Identify your goals and direction

While it’s important to know what kind of women you’re looking for, this is even more important. What we’re talking about here is, knowing what you want out of life overall. Do you want to be a champion rock climber? Start up a great company and grow it? Write great novels? Find a cure for diabetes? It doesn’t matter what your specific goal or dream is. Really knowing what you want, and having some kind of plan to get there, is something that women find extremely attractive in men. In contrast, being willing to accept anything, and expressing apathy and confusion about your life, is not very attractive at all. If you don’t know what your life goals are, figure them out.

Having a clear identity is attractive, but keep in mind that this could be something other than your professional identity. Sometimes men who are broke or have lousy jobs are able to attract great women, because they have a focus of their life that they are truly passionate about. It’s not an accident that women often find bikers, starving artists or indie musicians attractive, even if they might not make the best long-term mates.

Be a powerful man who has a choice of different women

How do you think a man who had lots of great women in his life – as potential lovers, girlfriends, or just friends – would react to the presence of another attractive woman that he just met? Right – he’d be pretty casual and relaxed about it. On the other hand, a man who hadn’t interacted with an attractive woman in a long time might very well overreact, like a starved dog who smelled a steak cooking. Act like the first man, not the second.

The term “abundance mindset” means that a man is unimpressed and relaxed in the presence of an attractive woman. If she’s attracted to him, that’s cool; if not, not a big deal. After all, he has many other great women in his life. He’s not desperate. He has options.

Most women are far more likely to feel attraction for a man who embodies a genuine abundance mindset. He’s more interesting and more of a challenge. A man who hangs on a woman’s every word, who is desperate to please her, is a lot less likely to create attraction in a woman.

Giving a genuine smile and positive energy to others

When you meet someone for the first time, doesn’t it feel wonderful when they express a positive and optimistic attitude and display a great smile? These are all things that women seek out in men, whether consciously or not. A man who gives good energy to his friends and the people around him, and is a fun person to be near, is naturally going to attract more attention from women. This is a fact whether you’re part of a group or out socializing solo.

The most important factor is the emotions that you cause a woman to feel. Attraction emerges from powerful emotions. If a woman feels that you’re “nice” and her emotional response is neutral, then that is the same as “boring”. With this kind of impression, you won’t create much attraction in her. If she feels like she must do the work to keep things interesting when she interacts with you, she probably won’t stay around very long. The ability to read a woman’s level of interest and emotional investment in you is really important. It informs you whether you’re generating attraction or just barely holding her attention.

The value of being able to read this should be clear. When a woman is excited and stimulated in your presence, then she’ll want to spend more time with you to make sure those good emotions continue. This is the essence of attraction.

Author Bio: Andrew Kane is a dating coach who has worked with men in major cities across the United States as well as worldwide. He helps men tap into their natural confidence, and enables them to develop skills in meeting women, dating, and relationships. He writes at http://www.how2attractmorewomen.com

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